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Join me for Part 4 of this 4-Part series on the 4 Basics of Eat to Live and Weight Loss! Today we delve into 3 Emotional Tools (body confidence, self care and worthiness!) that you can use on your journey to learn more about the weight-loss/consistency aspect of Eating to Live.

 

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YouTube auto-generated transcript:

 

when i lost weight after my first

 

pregnancy with my daughter this was back in

 

i was losing the weight it took about a

 

year to lose that weight and

 

i remember going through such a strange

 

transition during because

 

getting up to the weight that i got to

 

which was almost 175 pounds on that

 

pregnancy so i gained quite a bit i

 

gained like 50 pounds on that pregnancy

 

getting up to that weight felt so foreign to me

 

and so it felt fairly easy to come down

 

the first 10 20 pounds something like

 

That but then like the 130s and 140s felt so

 

normal to me because i had lived in that

 

space for a long time in my life earlier

 

getting down to the 120s 130s felt a little

 

a little normal for me because i had

 

been before many times

 

but then when i started to come down

 

below 120 it was a whole new game

 

for some reason we’re going to talk a

 

lot more about this kind of thing as we go

 

but i had to really really adjust to the

 

idea of being in the tens right the one

 

tens kind of a thing and this is a normal

 

body weight for my size i’m only five

 

two five three

 

But it took so much focus to

 

change my mindset around that

 

specific set of weights that i was

 

now getting into and i want to talk today a lot about that journey

 

and how it relates to these the final

 

set of weight loss tools and eat to live

 

tools that i’m going to give you today

 

hi i’m sheri alberts and this is the

 

watering mouth podcast and i’m going to

 

teach you to eat to live lose the weight

 

and love the process for good episode six

 

okay so here we are on the fourth and final session

 

in this series we’re talking about the

 

four basics of eat to live and weight loss

 

this week we are going to be talking about

 

the emotional tools

 

that i use to give you like last week we

 

talked about the emotional tools for

 

mindset this week we’re talking about

 

the heart this week we’re talking about

 

that ooey gooey stuff that you might not be super

 

good at yet or think that it’s very

 

important but hopefully i can change

 

your mind by the end of this podcast

 

alright so this week is dedicated to the

 

emotional tools that i give in the eat

 

to live academy and the eat to live

 

family and all my private coaching to

 

help someone

 

release the weight

 

keep the weight off and stay consistent

 

all right now these are the tools of the heart so

 

i just want to read this little

 

paragraph that i

 

read once from an eat to live family

 

member who’d just come into the family

 

and she had started looking through the

 

materials and learning things in the

 

academy and seeing how we do things in

 

there and i just want to read

 

a post that she put up one time here’s what she said

 

she said thank you i feel like this is a

 

whole body mind soul experience of

 

healing surrendering

 

letting go of old thought patterns

 

memories mentally and spiritually in my

 

heart center allowing more self-worth

 

and love in and physically integrating

 

all this sort of holy trinity she says

 

i couldn’t have said it better

 

what we do around here

 

so what she’s touching on is um

 

it’s kind of this word the holistic the whole

 

person right so we’re not talking about

 

just the food we’re not talking about

 

just how to eat to live or what things

 

to eat or when you should eat them just

 

the sort of nitty-gritty details

 

all those things are quite important and

 

we definitely want to focus on educating

 

ourselves on those aspects of the

 

lifestyle but we say lifestyle because

 

it’s not just about the food and

 

especially the way that i come at this

 

with helping someone learn how to do

 

this consistently it has so much more to do

 

with just that or just the weight loss

 

and so as we’re wrapping up this series

 

here let me tell you a little bit about

 

those tools the three tools for our heart now

 

last week we talked about the mind and

 

the mind you know talking about this

 

idea that our thoughts create our

 

feelings and our feelings create our

 

actions so if we want the actions of

 

eating healthfully you know the results

 

of losing the weight all that kind of

 

stuff we have to learn about the

 

thoughts and the feelings first so

 

we learned about that last week and some

 

of those tools that we can use but this

 

week what i really want to talk about is

 

that the tools that maybe you’re not sold

 

yet are super important right it might

 

be those tools that you don’t

 

necessarily believe you should focus on

 

because what you might be thinking you

 

need to focus on is how to prep and plan

 

better and you know if i could just get better at

 

prepping or if i could just get better

 

at chopping or cooking or if i didn’t

 

waste so much produce or if i could just

 

do this lifestyle without spending so

 

much right we’re talking about these

 

very small details that yeah we want to

 

get good at those and they’re important

 

but what is actually important is number

 

one overall our feelings the

 

feelings now when we talk about feelings

 

we’re like

 

ugh like that can’t be it

 

you know it has to be just about prep it

 

has to be just about the practical

 

things and as i say those are important

 

but actually what’s going to get you

 

to where you need to go is by first

 

concentrating on

 

that inner work that we need to do on

 

Ourselves even

 

so like things like are we worth it do

 

we deserve this time

 

do we want to put ourselves first um

 

if we get to that weight can we keep it

 

there because we think we don’t deserve it or

 

or can we keep it because

 

you know we feel like it’s something

 

that we can maintain right see so all of

 

these thoughts go into it but our

 

thoughts create our feelings so if we’re

 

constantly coming at this from a place of dejected

 

you know failure lack of confidence

 

you know just feeling like we’ll never

 

make it we never are going to make it so

 

how can we get our inner

 

like inner heart and inner mind in a

 

place of deserving

 

calm peaceful empowerment like i always

 

say right when we feel

 

confident and we feel like this

 

belongs to us this is our identity that’s

 

when we maintain that’s when um

 

maintenance and

 

consistency become no big deal now

 

this is a concept that maybe you don’t

 

understand yet but i want to maybe be

 

the first one to tell you it and i want

 

you to just have an open mind when we go

 

into this and i want you to just consider

 

what if she’s right

 

okay what if she’s right

 

how could i incorporate this how now i’m

 

telling you that the things that we’re

 

going to learn here on this podcast

 

these are the deep this is the deep ones

 

right this isn’t how much

 

onion to chop every day and eat right

 

this is the deep stuff so we’re talking

 

deep seeded stuff that you’ve probably

 

been carrying along with you like

 

baggage right like this really heavy

 

luggage with you

 

your whole life and maybe you don’t even

 

think about it and maybe you don’t even

 

consider it you don’t even think that

 

it’s important to work on it and to

 

reduce that amount of baggage until the

 

point where we can get rid of it but

 

here’s the main point that i want to make first

 

if we want to be consistent with our

 

healthy eating and our weight loss and

 

we want to like put down all that stuff

 

about do i deserve it am i worthy of it

 

will i be able to maintain it so we want

 

to put down all that stuff

 

the way to doing that is by

 

acting now before we’ve gotten to our

 

goal we need to act now the way we’re

 

going to act when we’ve gotten to our

 

goal so everyone is always talking about

 

like challenges right and i do a lot of

 

challenges for my audience as well

 

because it’s my it’s my in road to

 

convincing you that this is the way that

 

it might work for you and that you know

 

you should just give it a try

 

but actually challenges are not the long-term

 

goal right why because challenges are

 

by definition a short-term thing right

 

it’s a five-day challenge it’s a 14-day

 

challenge it’s whatever it’s a 21 day

 

challenge it’s a however long challenge

 

but a challenge by definition is has a

 

you know it’s finite it has an end a

 

beginning and an end

 

but when we really want to eat to live

 

and we really want to maintain that

 

weight loss forever we don’t want to

 

just be maintaining we want it to just

 

be our weight all right we don’t even

 

want to have to think about weight

 

anymore in a way that

 

is difficult or work or requires any

 

kind of thought really we just want it

 

to be who we are we just want to be that

 

whatever our goal weight is right

 

so in order to get there

 

and stay there we have to start learning

 

to act that way now

 

so we don’t have to be perfect we don’t

 

have to know exactly what it’s going to

 

be like when we get there but we

 

we can start practicing what that looks

 

like so for instance

 

let’s say we wanted to weight train

 

here’s another here’s just a unrelated

 

example let’s say we wanted to tone our

 

muscles and build our muscles right

 

let’s just say tone our muscles same say

 

we’ve never really done much weight

 

training in our life and we want to tone our muscles

 

we start toning our muscles and we do

 

maybe some hit workouts for a while or

 

maybe we do some yoga or we do some you

 

know any of these things can get our

 

bodies to a toned place now let’s say

 

yoga for instance because that’s pretty

 

accessible to everybody

 

let’s say that we do yoga for

 

three months say right and we start to

 

notice our body is really getting toned

 

and strong and we’re becoming more

 

flexible and all these kinds of things now

 

in order to maintain that in order to

 

stay at that vision of ourselves do we

 

quit yoga at that point once we’ve

 

gotten to that goal no of course not

 

right we keep doing the yoga because the

 

yoga is what got us to the place

 

where we needed to go where we wanted to

 

go where our goal was right but we don’t

 

just shut off what got us there thinking

 

that that’s gonna just stay indefinitely

 

right that’s not how it works obviously

 

same thing with eat to live

 

or it’s like house cleaning right like

 

you take all this time to clean your

 

house because you want it to be really

 

clean and once you get it there

 

cool now i can just relax for the rest

 

of my life right i wish that’s how it

 

worked but that’s not how it works if

 

you want your house to stay clean it’s a

 

constant thing you just keep doing it

 

right another one that i always think of is

 

you know having kids and i think

 

one of the things that i really do not

 

enjoy very much is having to feed them

 

like three to five times a day that’s

 

not my favorite pastime sometimes you

 

know i enjoy sitting down with them to a

 

meal or whatever but a lot of the times

 

like okay lunch time now what are we

 

gonna eat right okay dinner time now

 

what do we what do we have for breakfast

 

right it’s just this constant like

 

always thinking about what we’re going

 

to be eating even if i use a meal plan

 

it’s still like i have to like make the

 

food you know i have to like plan ahead

 

and do the things and make them the food

 

and feed them whatever and so but if i

 

want the child to live

 

right that’s a thing we have to just

 

keep doing it’s this idea like it is the work right

 

so in order for us to maintain whatever

 

goal it is we’re going for we have to

 

learn to act that way now and we have to

 

get good at acting that way until it

 

becomes second nature right how did we

 

get good at brushing our teeth well we

 

just brushed our teeth a lot you know we

 

didn’t like we didn’t always complain

 

about it we did when we were little and

 

then we stopped complaining about it and

 

because we realized the benefits of it

 

right so it takes this maintenance

 

but it’s not just right and so so let me

 

relate this now more towards what we’re

 

talking about today which is the tools

 

of the heart the

 

inner tools the feeling tools here so

 

the things that we’re going to talk about today

 

when we talk about the four basics of

 

eat to live and weight loss we have to

 

understand and incorporate embody

 

the spirit of these tools now you’re not

 

going to get it right away if you’ve

 

never worked on this before but we can

 

keep working on it and getting better

 

and better at it and the better we get

 

at it the more it’s going to affect our

 

weight loss and healthy eating journey

 

okay so these tools i’ve got um kind of

 

three buckets today so one of them is

 

sort of self-love

 

self-confidence body image bucket so to

 

speak then we’ve got the self-care

 

bucket and then we have the worthiness bucket okay now

 

these three things that we’re going to

 

be talking about are all

 

very we talk about it very very in-depth

 

in the eat to live family which is um

 

well so in the eat love academy is my

 

program the digital coaching program

 

that i have which is part of the eat to live family

 

so the eat to live academy has eight

 

weeks of lessons videos

 

and it will teach you the foundation of

 

my coaching program if you were to

 

become a private client of mine and i

 

put you through the eat-tell of academy

 

you would have the whole foundation

 

before we even got started then we could

 

start to work on your personal things specific to you

 

so we start with each live academy

 

because it gives all these tools first

 

and what we’re talking about today and

 

what we’ve been talking about for the

 

last few weeks is specifically these

 

things okay and and we’re going to keep

 

going into this stuff so you’ll get more

 

and more information on this as we go

 

but if you joined the eat to live family

 

which is my monthly

 

affordable group coaching membership

 

we’ve got you know hundreds of people in

 

there doing all this work together and

 

supporting each other

 

you get access to that eat to live

 

academy automatically just by being a

 

family member and so you can learn all

 

that and there okay so let’s talk number

 

one about the first set of tools which

 

is self-love self-confidence and body

 

image okay so we’re going to do this one

 

real briefly because i have a much more

 

in-depth program in the academy on this

 

but the reason that i find this one so

 

important is very similarly what i was

 

just saying with the idea of wanting to act now

 

and feel and think now

 

the way we’re going to feel and think

 

and act when we get to our goal so

 

the issue here is that everyone always

 

thinks that when they get there it’s

 

going to be so much better than when

 

they get here and the the getting there

 

is what’s going to make them

 

is is is the goal right so that

 

once they reach that weight

 

that weight is what’s going to make them

 

love themselves at that point okay now

 

this is the biggest fallacy

 

this is the biggest issue in the weight

 

loss community and also the healthy

 

eating community

 

is that once we get really good at it

 

it’s just going to be so easy and we’re

 

going to feel so much better and just

 

the being able to slip on our pants

 

easily in the morning is gonna make

 

everything perfect right

 

but here’s the reality

 

this is the you know i’m sorry to be the

 

bearer of bad news but

 

being able to slip your pants on easily

 

being able to go grocery i mean

 

clothes shopping without having too much worry

 

you know only having one size of clothes

 

in your closet etc

 

that only creates one

 

fun aspect of your life

 

but if you got to that place

 

using self-hatred and self-loathing

 

and you know disgust and um forcing

 

yourself to do things that you don’t want to do

 

when you get to that place of that

 

weight loss the last thing you’re going

 

to want to do is keep doing what you did

 

to get there because what you did to get

 

there was painful like who wants to hate

 

themselves for the rest of their lives

 

who wants to

 

you know look in the mirror and

 

beat themselves up for the rest of their lives

 

because what happens is when we get

 

there and we see that new reflection it

 

doesn’t feel like us

 

we don’t think we deserve it we don’t

 

think it’s us we it does not feel like

 

our own identity and so therefore we

 

become attacked with our own thoughts

 

again at that point of like

 

well i don’t deserve this i’m never

 

going to be able to keep it it won’t work

 

i i can’t hold on to this this isn’t me

 

right because what we’ve done the whole time

 

is just beat ourselves up over it so we weren’t really

 

accepting the journey we weren’t really

 

learning to become

 

good at the steps that it takes to do

 

that we just kept thinking when i get

 

there that’s going to make me feel

 

better right but what we need to make us

 

feel better is actually the journey we

 

actually need the steps that we take to

 

get there to feel good because when we

 

get there that’s sustainable right

 

feeling good about the journey

 

learning to love ourselves during the

 

journey so if we have done things

 

throughout that journey in order to feel

 

better we will feel better when we get

 

to the weight and it won’t be the weight loss

 

or the you know the understanding of how

 

to use the kitchen tools and getting

 

good in the kitchen and all that it

 

won’t be those goals that make us feel better it will be

 

it will be like just inherent that we

 

feel better our thoughts will be so good

 

at making us feel good that we will just

 

always be able to do that whenever we

 

need to now it’s not to say that life is

 

always perfect and it’s easy but if we

 

get good at those tools during the journey

 

that when we get there that’s when it’s

 

sustainable okay so

 

self confidence self-love body image these 100

 

come from our own thoughts about

 

ourselves okay body image self-love

 

self-confidence it’s 100 our thoughts

 

it’s not what we weigh

 

it’s not um you know what kind of

 

clothes we wear or anything like that or

 

or especially it’s not what other people

 

think of us okay it’s a hundred percent

 

what we think of ourselves so we say our

 

thoughts create our feelings our

 

feelings create our actions so let’s

 

look at what self-love might look like

 

self-love might be when we look in the

 

mirror no matter what we wear no matter

 

what size we are we love ourselves

 

anyways how could that be possible now

 

this might be something that’s really

 

slippery for you right now i know it was

 

for me in the very beginning

 

but the idea is that if we hate ourselves now

 

i promise you that when you get to that

 

weight you’re still gonna hate yourself

 

you’re just gonna hate different things

 

about yourself and it’s it’s you’re

 

gonna hate the fact that you feel like

 

you can’t keep it you’re gonna hate the fact that you feel like

 

you’re not the type of person who can

 

maintain that and then you’re just gonna

 

end up eating again and you know going

 

through that process all over again

 

but if we can learn to love ourselves

 

during that journey now we don’t have to

 

love ourselves this second but we have

 

to be like learning to love ourselves in the

 

process of learning to love that so that

 

when we get to that goal weight it feels

 

comfortable we feel comfortable in our

 

own skin and we love ourselves now this is work

 

and the way that this works technically

 

is with our thoughts so our thoughts

 

create our feelings if our thoughts are

 

all about self-loathing and hating

 

ourselves and all that that’s what we’re

 

going to feel we’re going to feel

 

self-loathing and when we feel that kind

 

of stuff that’s when we overeat that’s

 

when we binge and all that kind of stuff

 

but if instead we can learn to shift our

 

thoughts towards things like

 

i love myself at any size

 

i love myself no matter what my arms

 

look like or no matter what my stomach

 

looks like i still love myself

 

that creates feelings of self-love it

 

creates feelings of softness and

 

tenderness and when we feel those kinds

 

of feelings about ourselves our actions

 

are much more positive you see the difference there

 

but then the question is always like

 

well how do i get to those thoughts

 

that’s the rub there so we have a lot of

 

tools in the eat to live family that i

 

give you in order to do that i can’t get

 

into all of them in this podcast but one

 

of them specifically is like a thought

 

bridge or a thought ladder so i like

 

this thought ladder idea

 

where we think like if our stomach is

 

the problem area that we’re not happy

 

with for instance instead of just having

 

these very very negative thoughts first

 

we want to notice what thoughts we’re

 

having but we want to start to try to

 

find a thought that’s a little easier

 

for us to believe

 

but feels a little bit more positive so

 

for instance if the thought if the

 

general thought is my stomach is so

 

terrible i hate my stomach i wish i

 

wasn’t you know so fat i wish it didn’t

 

have so much fat on it or something if

 

that’s our general thought

 

what if we switched to a thought that’s

 

still believable of this is what a human

 

stomach looks like now it’s totally

 

neutral in that thought right this is

 

what a human stomach looks like and if

 

we really think about that thought we

 

know it’s true and we can believe it

 

right away because we are human and we

 

have that stomach right we can also

 

start to think wow there’s a lot of

 

other people that have similar stomachs

 

to mine or stomachs that even have more

 

fat on them or you know just from a from

 

a factual standpoint right so we can start to really

 

open up those thoughts a little bit so

 

instead of just thinking i hate my

 

stomach we can think this is what a

 

stomach looks like and when we start to

 

just realize oh this is what a stomach looks like

 

it takes out some of that negativity so

 

what we would do in that case is

 

we start to notice that we’re having

 

those very negative thoughts and we

 

shift we choose a different thought in

 

that moment which might be this more

 

neutral thought when we have more

 

neutral thoughts about ourselves maybe

 

to start with we don’t necessarily have

 

to start off super positive and loving

 

and perfect right away if we’re just

 

starting from a place of more neutral

 

that is at least during our day gonna

 

create more of a neutral feeling which

 

does not lead to massive overeating and

 

binges it leads to more just you know

 

neutral type actions okay so that’s

 

that’s kind of how we start shifting we

 

have a lot more in the eat to live

 

family in the academy

 

so we would do the same thing with our

 

confidence in our body image so that’s

 

sort of the tool number one

 

sort of first bucket of shifts that i

 

would love for you to make that can help

 

you get to that consistency and

 

sustainability in your weight loss and your

 

your body image and all that

 

the second one is self-care and i have a

 

um a very particular perspective on

 

self-care i’m going to go through this

 

one briefly we’ll do more on this later

 

but i love this idea of self-care being

 

because typically we hear about

 

self-care being

 

manicures and pedicures and baths and you know

 

sort of aesthetic things that have to do

 

with the outside of our body but i

 

instead want us to shift our definition

 

of self-care and i want us to shift it to

 

anything that creates a feeling of sort of

 

self-love a feeling of

 

progress a feeling of

 

you know actually taking care of

 

yourself so let’s look at the difference between

 

now this is going to maybe sound a

 

little bit weird but this is exactly

 

what i mean

 

let’s look at the difference between

 

getting a manicure

 

not that there’s anything wrong with

 

getting manicures okay so let me just

 

say that first but i just want to talk

 

about the definition of self-care

 

so the difference between getting a

 

manicure and doing your budget or

 

getting out of debt for instance okay so

 

that’s like a financial goal maybe

 

now the getting out of debt one might

 

take a really long time and you know i

 

am no stranger to to debt from my you

 

know past lives of going to expensive

 

college and all these kinds of you know

 

using credit cards and things like that

 

but when i started shifting out of that

 

and realizing that actually paying off those

 

credit cards and paying off that school

 

loan debt and all that actually made me

 

feel so good

 

the difference between doing that and

 

getting a manicure

 

worlds of difference right so i want us

 

to redefine self-care as anything that

 

moves us forward that progresses us now

 

let’s talk about the manicure for a

 

second so i look at a manicure like okay

 

that’s nice and everything but it’s

 

something you have to just keep doing

 

like it goes away the effects of it go away

 

you know it’s it’s something you have to

 

keep reapplying in a way right whereas

 

getting out of debt that’s a permanent

 

self-love self-care type decision right

 

now but let’s talk about the manicure

 

for a second

 

it’s not that there aren’t any benefits

 

from it because let’s say that going to

 

get a manicure is actually your your

 

release from you know the the

 

responsibilities of parenting or being

 

at the home doing all the things or

 

whatever so maybe that is the time that

 

you can take at this moment

 

to and maybe that does create a feeling

 

of well-being but that’s the difference

 

i want you to look at here is this sort

 

of temporary pleasure that disappears

 

and you have to reapply

 

in a way right like taking a bath those

 

kinds of things or

 

is it something that really builds and

 

grows and can sort of compound on itself

 

right so getting out of debt is one of

 

those things um

 

keeping your house clean for instance

 

could be another one keeping your house

 

free of clutter you know

 

making time for your friends when you

 

don’t do that very often or

 

not doing social media so much right

 

learning to do things that actually

 

build you up instead of sort of deplete

 

you right so that’s that’s kind of what

 

i want you to look at the difference

 

between self-care and and something that maybe

 

seems like self-care but actually isn’t

 

self-care so be considering self-care

 

in that way of what can i actually do

 

for myself that’s going to move me

 

forward that’s going to give me some

 

progress that’s what we wanted to find self-care as okay

 

and then the third thing that i want to

 

talk about today just very briefly is

 

worthiness because interestingly as a

 

private coach as a life coach

 

i find that all of our issues actually

 

stem from a feeling of

 

lack of worthiness right we all feel

 

like we’re just not worthy of the thing

 

that we’re doing or the thing that we’re

 

trying to attempt

 

and this one is a pretty deep one and it

 

can be slippery to hold on to but let me

 

just give you a few thoughts on this and

 

and i want you to start considering this

 

so brene brown who is a researcher on

 

guilt and shame and she’s just an

 

incredible woman you can look up her ted

 

talks i’ll try to put something in the

 

show notes about her as well if you

 

haven’t heard about her

 

but she talks about worthiness in such a beautiful way

 

that i had never heard before i heard it

 

from her and it just

 

i allowed myself to let it shift my

 

entire thought about worthiness and so

 

some things that she says about

 

worthiness are that worthiness is

 

inherent so somebody’s self-worth is inherent

 

it is there from the moment they’re born and it is there

 

at the moment they die and it never

 

changes up or down you know more

 

self-worth less self-worth that never

 

changes at all not even a spec no matter

 

what we do or what we don’t do in our life

 

the way that you can kind of hold on to

 

this a little bit i go so much more in

 

depth on this in the academy and there’s

 

many other resources that you can look

 

into this as well but i think it’s

 

totally worth it to start to understand

 

self-worth and understand our own self-worth

 

so that we can feel better during the

 

journey so that the journey becomes

 

pleasurable and then the end goal

 

becomes pleasurable as well

 

right if we’re if we have this inner

 

wellspring i like to think of that like

 

a bubbling spring of just worth and self-worth and

 

knowing that internally

 

we are always worthy when we have that

 

and we can hold on to that it makes the

 

journey so much easier and more

 

pleasurable and

 

it makes it feel so much more

 

sustainable when we have that so this

 

Idea self-worth being

 

something so the example that i like to

 

give is the example of a baby all right

 

so when a baby is born it doesn’t matter

 

who the baby grows up to be

 

that baby we all consider worthy all of

 

us like anyone looking at a baby would

 

consider a baby worthy because they’re

 

innocent you know they haven’t done

 

anything wrong they don’t know anything

 

yet you know they they deserve love and

 

care and all these things

 

but somewhere along the line in our

 

society we start to equate self-worth

 

with our actions what we have done or

 

haven’t done so we start to think that

 

our worthiness comes from what we do or

 

don’t do now this is not true this is crap

 

and especially if you look at the brene

 

brown stuff it all supports this idea

 

and you can find this in so many other

 

places as well this idea that

 

no matter what we do or don’t do

 

we are worthy we are worthy of

 

everything we want we are worthy of you

 

know i mean just think of like

 

those babies who don’t have enough food

 

to eat right and are they worthy of food

 

absolutely are they worthy of love

 

absolutely when does it change when do

 

they become less worthy of things well

 

they never are right because we are

 

human because we are all here we all

 

deserve the same amount of awesomeness

 

and we all have that within ourselves now

 

this is where it gets a little tricky

 

and we will probably talk about this

 

more in the future but i don’t want to

 

get into it too much today but

 

it starts to become problematic because

 

we start to think well so and so is more

 

worthy than this other person because of

 

these things they have done right mother

 

teresa versus jeffrey dahmer kind of an idea right

 

but that’s actually not how worthiness works

 

everyone is as worthy as anyone else no

 

matter what they do or don’t do

 

worthiness is inherent it’s a hundred

 

percent there it’s always there

 

and so so i’m going to leave it here and

 

we have so much more that we can say on

 

this and we will in the future as i said

 

there’s so much more on the academy but

 

i just want you to start asking yourself

 

these questions how could these things be true

 

how could these things be true and how

 

could i incorporate these things into my

 

life because i promise you

 

the stuff that has to do with feelings

 

in the heart and our inner mind and ourinner

 

our inner workings this is everything

 

when it comes to sustainability and long-term

 

you know goal seeking and maintenance

 

and keeping of goals right

 

all of these things that go together

 

everything we talked about in this

 

series they all go together to create

 

this holistic view of

 

what it takes to be successful long term

 

and it all comes from the feelings

 

inside of us whether we whether we love

 

ourselves whether we’re confident

 

whether we feel we can do it whether we

 

feel worthy of it and

 

when you put all of those things

 

together as well as the things we talked

 

about that are very practical right how

 

to use the scale how to not beat

 

yourself up how to get into that mindset

 

how to how to shift your thoughts

 

deliberately and then of course

 

why are we eating this way why do we

 

want to eat healthy food why is it so

 

important right we’re looking at all the

 

specific reasons why we do eat to live

 

all these practical things

 

when we put all that together

 

that is what creates a successful

 

journey now you might be looking at it

 

and going oh my gosh that sounds like so

 

much work right if we’re doing all this

 

self-care we’re working on our thoughts

 

and all this kind of stuff yeah it is a

 

lot of work but guess what it is the

 

most important work we can ever do

 

because when we get this stuff down

 

we are creating

 

a sustainable legacy for not only

 

ourselves we not only make our life feel good

 

but we’re creating a legacy for others

 

to see as well our friends and family

 

children right we’re creating something

 

that just bubbles over to everyone else

 

and isn’t that what we’re here for isn’t

 

it about love and relationships and

 

connection and creating all of this

 

amazingness for everyone around us isn’t that

 

what it’s all about

 

maybe i just urge you to question it and

 

look for it for yourself see if it’s

 

something that you’re interested in and

 

if you are i can take you on this whole

 

journey and we’ll do this together okay thank you so much

 

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